Why Are Some More Uptight Than Others?

Stress is a communicable disease that travels from generation to generation by both nature and nurture. The Bible tells us about that concept by simply saying, "The sins of the parents are passed to the third or fourth generation..." In my early years I fought that notion. It seemed unfair and old fashioned to me. After all, I am an American that believes in "Individual Rights" not group guilt for sins.

The term SIN in scripture means basic make up or patterns of life. In other words, nature.The Genogram symbols above indicate issues and conflicts in families that always go down to the following generations, just as the Bible says. In Generational Family Therapy we say, "Any issue not resolved fully in Generation 1. will move down to Generation 2. Generation, 3. and so forth."

In some families there are cut-offs between a Father and his child. This cut-off will cause stress, and dysfunction between father and Mother as well as Father and Son. It will impact every child in the family for generations. It leaves the entire interrelated system with Chronic Reactivity/Chronic Anxiety for several generations.

Reactivity is a term that indicates the human organism and the interpersonal organism as a whole Reacts Unconsciously and Automatically in either FIGHT or FLIGHT to any Perceived Threat. A Perception can be anywhere in-between a 100% accurate or 0 % accurate and the Fight/Flight Reaction will still occur.

A Paranoid person Perceives threats when there are none and has nervous breakdowns over issues that occur only within his mind. However, to the Suspicious person, the threats are real. PTSD seems to bring memories from battles past the seem real to the person today whose body, soul, mind, emotions all React in full Fight or Flight mode. 

Adults who suffered Shock, Trauma and Abuse as children are often in full Fight or Flight mode when around similar situations of the past. This can lead them to become addicted, physically ill, angry, etc as adults.

Many marital conflicts and divorces come from people whose Reactivity to a spouse is very high and they cannot be Present with each other in Peace. The slightest disagreement can result in great anger and Reactivity to either Fight or Flee or sometimes Freeze.

Zero Perfect Peace - Five-Average-Ten Extreme Reactivity

Fight Scale: 0---1---2---3---4---5---6---7---8---9---10

Flight Scale:0---1---2---3---4---5---6---7---8---9---10

Your Family Tree as drawn by a Genogram can tell you if some of your anxiety and Fight?flight temptations are generational. 

I will keep him in perfect peace it he will________________________?

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