I have been examining my Facebook posts and comments to see if I have been following the scripture passages below. For the most part I have been OK, but not always. I am posting it for myself and anyone else that wants to be a peacemaker not a troublemaker. Many of the posts are fostering anger and division, I fear.
The single greatest reason folks divorce in America is an inability to resolve differences large and small. Differences can be resolved when we have the fruit of the Holy Spirit. Contentment: At peace with myself, the world and God. Complaints mean we are unhappy and want something in life to change. The only way to bring positive changes is to complain so complaints are good.
Being out of step with my spouse, however, brings distress that causes us to lose our contentment. There are two ways to handle a Complaint. Handling them with love builds trust and a deep relationship, but that is difficult. It is tempting to attempt to be right and prove the other person wrong.Ephesians 414Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of men in their deceitful scheming. 15Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ. 16From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.
17So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking. 18They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts. 19Having lost all sensitivity they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, with a continual lust for more.
22You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; 23to be made new in the attitude of your minds; 24and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. 25Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor. 26"In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27and do not give the devil a foothold.
29Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. 30And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 32Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
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