Friday, December 8, 2017

Why is there so Much Perverted Sexual Behavior Now?

In today's news we see what happens when traditional values and morality are rejected by government agencies, schools, and leaders. 

This question is not a simple thing to answer but I will give my insights as a Christian Counselor.

The Sexual Revolution began in earnest occurred on campuses in the 60's and 70's. I was an Associate Dean at the University of Cincinnati and saw first hand several ways the college leaders attempted successfully to destroy traditional morality and values. 

1. The University Medical Center secretly gave students free birth control pills. Why secretly? Because parents and taxpayers would never approve of it.
2. Some of the Student Affairs Staff pressured the college to secretly mix male and female students on the dorm floors. 
3. No student would be disciplined for inviting another person to "sleep over" even if it disturbed roommates. 
4. Sexually Transmitted Diseases was treated free by University Doctors. 
5. One year STD rates went up by 1,000%, and they wondered why.

This was your tax dollars at work.

Go to our web page if you want to get materials to counsel men and women harmed by the lack of morality. 

Thursday, December 7, 2017

Bible reading Reduces Sexual Harassment

Will Americans recognize why sexual harassment is so common? Roman citizens discovered why. St. Paul tells us in  Galatians  3:28 why women are to be respected.

“There is no difference in eternal inheritance for Jew-Greek, slave or free, male  or  female”. 

Before Christianity was strong, women and babies were not respected. Roman law allowed parents to kill their babies, do forced abortions, and steal from women and slaves. The Christian faith changed that. Abortion and infanticide were prohibited, poor people, women, and slaves were given rights. 

Forced marriages were prohibited by the church and were allowed to live freely. Before the Bible was accepted young girls were placed into forced marriages with older men at ages 11, 12 and 13. That was dramatically altered as women in the church were allowed to choose when and with whom to marry. 

Divorcing a woman was easy in Jewish and Roman circles. As a result, women and their children were left destitute and hungry. Philandering husbands commonly found someone younger and new. The church started to take women and children's causes seriously and began to prohibit no-cause divorces. They saw Jesus statement about divorce as protecting the family. 

Women were expected to be chaste and have no sexual partners in those days but men were expected to be promiscuous. The church changed that double standard so men and women both expected to be sexually pure. 

Over time the laws also changed in Rome. Christianity impacted every society.  Mothers could choose to rear their children. Women could inherit and control property, have money and choose their husbands. Men were expected to be good husbands and fathers. Younger siblings inherited property. Women and slaves were able to become Deacons, Prophets, Teachers, and Evangelists. Some were martyred for the faith. Junia, a female, was even an Apostle (Romans 16:7).  

Elevating the eldest son is the tradition today in most of Asia, Africa and the Middle East. Eldest sons are emperors who can control family life. The Chinese have a special name for the eldest son. He has more power and more responsibility, as well as more prestige. In America, we are so accustomed to Christian thinking about equality that these passages do not mean much. However, to an African, Muslim, or Asian, the term is radically liberating, as radical as we can get. 

Women are still treated as second-class or worse in some non-Christian countries. A famous Muslim scholar said that one thing Muslims cannot accept in the west is the way we treat women as equals. A Muslim ambassador reported back to his king that men treat women so amazingly the king would not believe it.

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Wednesday, December 6, 2017

The Power of Encouragement

When attempting to heal damaged emotions, few things are as important as positive encouragement. Years ago, a study was done attempting to assess the impact of non-possessive touch on people. 

Since the skin is our largest organ, it was assumed that warm, caring, and unobtrusive pats, hugs, and handshakes would have a positive impact on others. And, it does. In fact, listening to others with warmth in our facial expressions, eyes, and touches cause the body to relax and our defenses to lower because we do not sense an attack. 

The following story illustrates what encouragement can do to us versus discouragement. 

In the early 1900’s, in the small village of Podsreda, Croatia, an altar boy named Josip Broz was serving the priest at Sunday mass. As he was holding the wine cruet, it accidentally dropped and shattered. 

The village priest struck the altar boy sharply on the cheek and in a gruff voice shouted: “Leave the altar and don’t come back!”

Crushed, Josip left the church and by the time he was eighteen, he joined the newly formed Croatian Social Democratic Party. During World War II, Josip changed his name to Marshal Tito and in 1945 Tito became the cruel, angry, Communist dictator of Yugoslavia.

There was another altar boy in the early 1900’s named John who grew up in El Paso, Illinois. He too was serving Sunday mass to a Bishop when a wine cruet accidentally fell from his hand during communion. With a warm twinkle in his eyes the bishop gently whispered: “Someday you will be a priest.” 

John took that lesson of forgiveness and hope to heart. Archbishop John Fulton Sheen was one of the most captivating radio preachers and influential religious authors in America.
What power we have when we say the right word at the right time. Are your words “apples of gold”? Today in prayer, thank Christ for His example of aptly spoken words. Look to the Lord to give you wisdom in all that you say.

 “A man finds joy in giving an apt reply--and how good is a timely word!” - Pr 15:23

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Friday, December 1, 2017

Healing Damaged Hearts

90% of the people suffering from a damaged heart and mind never seek Counseling from a Pastor or Clinical Counselor. There are too many barriers to asking for help from a professional. 

What are the barriers?
1. Fear of being labeled as "sick" by the Minister or Counselor.
2. Fear of being called "Mentally Ill" and never recovering from it.
3. Fear of exposure to others.
4. Fear of exposing a loved one as a bad person.
5. Fear of "Dishonoring" a parent. 
6. Fear of being blamed for the problem, especially if sex was involved. 
7. Fear of being labeled as having no faith in God. 
8. Financial anxiety if a Counselor is suggested. 
9. Fear of "Breaking Down" and seeming weak.
10. (YOU ADD) 

That is one reason we set up a Lay Caring Ministry at College Hill and equipped people all over the world to do the same. People will often meet and interact in informal settings and the Lay people equipped to care can minister gently by listening at any time. 

fter listening and refusing to interrupt, share Power Christian Thinking to them. 

Listening with understanding and love can uncover and begin to heal so much of the long term pain and break the dam of fear.

In Asia we equipped hundreds of Cell Group Leaders to Care, Counsel, and Coach their members, by listening and loving with patience. Growth and healing in those groups burst forth and multitudes gave glowing testimonies. Your church can do the same, if you want. 

Wednesday, November 29, 2017

As a Christian Counselor I have listened to many stories of shock, trauma and abuse from both males and females. The issue, IMO, is a lack of personal relationships that are open, genuine, and private, if not confidential. I focused almost my entire 40 years of professional work on equipping Peer Helpers to provide careful, caring, confidential counsel. Until a multitude of churches equip Helpers to do that, the shock, trauma, and abuse suffered by so many members, the pain will stay stuck in the subconscious and bring more havoc on generations of people. 

Ministers cannot and ought not try to counsel everyone and it is impossible to hire Clinical Counselors for every issue because costs and availability are prohibitive. Plus, it is not necessary. 

We ought not focus on "Mental Illness" because that term is a big barrier. It causes hurting people to hide rather than seek assistance for shock, trauma, or abuse. 

The very best way to help individuals and church groups become mentally, relationally, and spiritually healthy is to "Equip the saints to DO the ministry of healing and renewing the mind."

See our web page and the materials in our book store.

The books Breaking Free and Power Christian Thinking for teaching on how to heal hurting hearts. 

Saturday, November 18, 2017

Making and Keeping my Money

While arguments in DC about taxes and spending keep us confused, there are many ways we can keep the money we make. Even if the GREED CATS in DC refuse to reduce our tax rates, we can do more with what we have. 

Richard Thaler just received the Nobel Prize in Economics by writing about money in very practical ways. Mainly by telling us how to KEEP the money we have by saving smarter. 

This link has some very interesting articles and book about making and saving that smart people are already practicing. I have done some of these things for years even though my income in ministry has been small in comparison with others. However, by smart investing, and saving a little at a time we are doing very well in retirement. 

I hope Christians will become wiser and better at both making and keeping and donating their resources to ministries that follow Jesus Christ. I have a personal as well as a charitable desire for this to happen. First, my Christian non-profit depends on donations small and large to survive. Most of them are small but some are quite large. We are thankful for both. 

Second, I read about billionaires with evil intentions donation to evil causes. We need Christians to support the many positive causes led by believers. I pray that God will raise up many rich, Christians so they can support great charities. 

See our link to pray for us. 

Friday, October 20, 2017

Disabled Children

Almost 10 years ago we were told we could receive a large grant from the Hatton Foundation to do research about the needs of children with a delay or disability.  We discussed this issue with the Hatton Foundation leaders and agreed to alter the focus of the grant. 

Why would we want to alter the focus of a grant to do research on children with a disability? Do we think these kids don't have great, unmet needs? 

No, absolutely not. 

We know the kids have deep and ongoing needs! So why not do in-depth research? Because numerous, brilliant, caring, insightful people are already doing such research. Consider for a moment the fantastic hospitals and research institutes in America and Europe that focus almost exclusively on discovering the causes and cures of sick children. 

Here in Cincinnati we have a huge, highly regarded Children's Hospital staffed by some of the most brilliant Physicians and Medical professionals in the world, and similar places can be found elsewhere. But there is at least one glaring and discouraging topic that desperately needs research. The needs and importance of Parents and Caregivers. 

So, we agreed with the Hatton Board to take a plunge into doing in-depth research on what Caregivers and Families want and need. In the next few weeks we will launch a powerful and practical new web presence designed to give those who love and care for these kids the insights, wisdom, and knowledge they need to reduce their stress and flourish personally and as a family.