Sunday, August 5, 2018

Innocent Until Proven Guilty By Gossip in the Media

It is difficult to keep your job and your reputation if you are famous and accused of a crime. There are individuals and special interest groups that will destroy us if we seem to be a vulnerable target. 

Men accused of "sexual harassment" are especially vulnerable. If they are in college the hanging will very likely be swift and filled with hysterical accusations but little if any right to a fair trial. There are numerous cases of false chargers against male groups that ended with complete exoneration weeks after the organization and its members were hounded, publicly scorned, and punished academically. 

A fraternity at the University of Virginia was accused of sexual attacks against a young woman in Rolling Stone Magazine. The group was sanctioned by the President and the members attacked by the President. The fraternity and all men were found to be innocent and the magazine and woman who charged them to found to be lying. The president of Virginia attacked the organization and the men and yet was never held accountable. She recently retired with no regrets. 

When I serve as Associate Dean of Students at Cincinnati we were always careful to give every student due process if he or she was accused of wrongdoing. But with great pressure from the Obama administration due process was not applied and many schools are now having to pay millions of dollars for following the DC demands. 

We cannot afford to allow the mantra of "Innocent until proven guilty" to become "Innocent until accused by gossipy liars, and social media". 

Thursday, August 2, 2018

Are Dads Important to Healthy Kids?

New MUHC research highlights the value of fathers in both neurobiology and behaviour of offspring

Published: 4 Dec 2013

Even with today’s technology, it still takes both a male and a female to make a baby. But is it important for both parents to raise that child? Many studies have outlined the value of a mother, but few have clearly defined the importance of a father, until now. New findings from the Research Institute of the McGill University Health Centre (RI-MUHC) show that the absence of a father during critical growth periods, leads to impaired social and behavioural abilities in adults. This research, which was conducted using mice, was published today in the journal Cerebral Cortex. It is the first study to link father absenteeism with social attributes and to correlate these with physical changes in the brain.

“Although we used mice, the findings are extremely relevant to humans,” says senior author Dr. Gabriella Gobbi, a researcher of the Mental Illness and Addiction Axis at the RI-MUHC and an associate professor at the Faculty of Medicine at McGill University. “We used California mice which, like in some human populations, are monogamous and raise their offspring together.”

“Because we can control their environment, we can equalize factors that differ between them,” adds first author, Francis Bambico, a former student of Dr. Gobbi at McGill and now a post-doc at the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH) in Toronto. “Mice studies in the laboratory may therefore be clearer to interpret than human ones, where it is impossible to control all the influences during development.”

Dr. Gobbi and her colleagues compared the social behaviour and brain anatomy of mice that had been raised with both parents to those that had been raised only by their mothers. Mice raised without a father had abnormal social interactions and were more aggressive than counterparts raised with both parents. These effects were stronger for female offspring than for their brothers. Females raised without fathers also had a greater sensitivity to the stimulant drug, amphetamine.

“The behavioural deficits we observed are consistent with human studies of children raised without a father,” says Dr. Gobbi, who is also a psychiatrist at the MUHC. “These children have been shown to have an increased risk for deviant behaviour and in particular, girls have been shown to be at risk for substance abuse. This suggests that these mice are a good model for understanding how these effects arise in humans.”

In pups deprived of fathers, Dr. Gobbi’s team also identified defects in the mouse prefrontal cortex, a part of the brain that helps control social and cognitive activity, which is linked to the behaviourial deficits.

“This is the first time research findings have shown that paternal deprivation during development affects the neurobiology of the offspring,” says Dr. Gobbi. These results should incite researchers to look more deeply into the role of fathers during critical stages of growth and suggest that both parents are important in children’s mental health development.

About the study 

The paper in the journal Cerebral Cortex entitled Father absence in the monogamous California mouse impairs social behavior and modifies dopamine and glutamate synapses in the medial prefrontal cortex, was authored by Francis Bambico (First author) from the Behavioral Neurobiology Laboratory, Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH), Toronto; Baptiste Lacoste, Patrick Hattan and Gabriella Gobbi from the Neurobiological Psychiatry Unit, Department of Psychiatry, McGill University Health Centre, Montreal. Cerebral Cortex is published by Oxford University Press.

This work was supported by the Fonds de la Recherche en Santé du Québec (FRSQ), and fellowships from the McGill University Health Centre (MUHC) and from the Faculty of Medicine of McGill University.

Tuesday, July 31, 2018

How to Draw People to Church

                         We can treat everyone like royalty!

It seems that it is harder and harder to draw new people to church. As I study the reasons why one thing continually jumps out to me. People are afraid of being attacked for being bad, wrong, or sinful. Of course all of us are imperfect but the church seems to have a reputation for showing disrespect for imperfect people.

This short video speaks to the importance of showing RESPECT to everyone. And, we don't have to say it as nicely as The Queen of Soul!

Monday, July 9, 2018

Let My People Go and Grow

I woke up this morning thinking about the wonderful people we had at College Hill Pres. The staff there was a great team that worked hard and attempted to listen to God as best we could. However, it was the congregation that really made us into a fantastic place.

As I read Twitter, Facebook, and blogs I am struck by the emphasis on elite Preachers, Pastors, and Leaders. I think we need great theologians and preachers. But the emphasis in scripture and in my experience as an Organizational Consultant is really on the ordinary, non titled people in the pew.

Some of the very best Bible teachers I know were Laity. They were great at Practical Theology and application. They knew how to walk the talk. Members of our church rans P&G and GE and many other organizations. If they can run a billion dollar organization they can do ministry.

We had a large church with several terrific Ministers but our congregation was filled with energized men and women that were encouraged to try new things. We had a policy of giving permission to anyone in the church that believed they had a Call from the Lord to start a ministry. The Call had to be consistent with our Mission and Vision and cost the church nothing. If a person had a sense of call they had 3 minutes on Sunday morning to tell the congregation what they were doing. 1. They wrote out their 3 minute announcement. 2. They gave their call to join. 3. If people responded, they had a ministry. If no one was interested, it did not go anywhere. The church did not control the ministry.

When Laity are liberated, then innovation will grow and the church will grow.

Let my people go and grow!

Monday, July 2, 2018

My Triple By Pass and Prayer

                                                                  God still Heals

It has been six weeks since Dr. Griffin and his team of people at The Christ Hospital took care of the three arteries that were blocked. I am reminded of the scripture that says, "All good gifts are from God." As a Social Scientist I have taken that truth very seriously by constantly examining scripture, research on how the brain and body work and mixed in prayer to keep God engaged in the process.

My recovery has gone well. The most important person is Karen who is the Chief Nurse, gatekeeper, schedule keeper, medicine regulator and emotional supporter.

For the past two weeks I have been attending Cardiac Rehab at Christ Hospital in Liberty Twp. Before that Karen and I had the distinct pleasure of getting home health care from some wonderful Nurses.

The Medical Staff at Christ and at home were extremely pleased with my progress since it was faster than most. Especially those who like me are 80 years old. One Doctor said, "You do not look 80, or act 80 but every organ in your body IS 80! So, take care of yourself and allow the healing to be complete."

I was able to share with several of my Medical Team at Christ that my improvement was due in large part to their great treatment as well as having so many people praying for me. Thank God for great friends that pray.

I am slowly reentering my office to write and plan so this note is one result. I tire VERY easily so I am certainly taking naps and slowing down even though I feel OK I am 80.

I am so thankful for Ron Peake, Andrea Bowsher, Jim Donovan, and Randy Creamer for taking the reins of our ministry and keeping it going so I can rest and recover.

I have some way to go before I can be fully operational so thanks for your prayers for me and the ministry.

Blessings and Peace!

Gary Sweeten

Monday, May 14, 2018

Update on My Heart Treatment

Thanks so much for the encouragement and prayers. 

After the angiogram last Friday, Dr. Kereiakes came into my room to explain the results. He said although my heart was beating strongly and looked healthy there were three arteries that were seriously occluded. They were to long to fix with stents so he recommended bypass surgery. 

Dr. Kereiakes had his colleague, Dr. Griffin come in and explain the procedure of taking vessels from other places and putting them to bypass the occluded ones. 

Today his office called to give me the schedule:
1. Tuesday at Christ Hospital for pretesting and instructions.
2. Thursday arrive at The Christ Hospital at 8:00 AM for preparation.
3. Surgery scheduled for 12:00 Noon Thursday.
4. Surgery will likely last about 4 hours.
5. Recovery in the hospital for 6 days with exercise and instructions. 
6. Return home on about May 23 for recovery for two months. 
7. Dance in the Spirit to thank God for His love, power, and provision of surgeons, nurses and medical personnel as well as great technology. 

Post Script: I am rereading the old book Healing and Christianity by Morton Kelsey. He traces the healing of body, mind, and spirit by prayers and physicians. He notes that some of the greatest names in Christian history promoted healing by multiple means. Prayers, Fasting, Anointing, Medicine, Dreams, ETC. One of the very first free hospitals in the world was set up by St. Gregory in Caesarea in the 4th Century, AD. 

I want to receive everything God has for me so pray all you can whenever you can. There are no bad side effects or fear of an overdose!

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Thursday, May 10, 2018

John Donne 1623

This is always first. Everything must bring praise to God!
A Hymn to God the Father

Will You forgive that sin where I begun,
Which is my sin, though it were done before?
Will You forgive that sin through which I run,
And do run still, though still I do deplore?
When You are done, You are not done,
For I have more.
Will You forgive that sin which I have won
Others to sin? and made my sin their door?
Will You forgive that sin which I did shun
A year or two, but wallowed in a score?
When You are done, You are not done,
For I have more.
I have a sin of fear, that when I have spun
My last thread, I shall perish on the shore;
Swear by Yourself, that at my death Your Son
Shall shine as he shines now and heretofore;
And, having done that, You have done,
I fear no more.

Psalm 103:12 "as far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us." 

Micah 7:19 "He will again have compassion upon us, he will tread our iniquities under foot. Thou wilt cast all our sins into the depths of the sea."

Give thanks and honor our God.

Wednesday, May 9, 2018

Great Churches Thomas Road

Do you wonder what he most influential in church history in the past 100 years were, and 
what trends did they set and how they expressed their influence?  Can those past churches’ successes help us today?  

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Thomas Road Baptist Church, Lynchburg, Virginia

I first visited Lynchburg, Virginia, in 1968 doing research on the book, The Ten Largest Sunday Schools and What Made Them Grow.  That book eventually became a bestseller and remained on the list for over 14 months.  During my first Sunday visit, I taught the Pastor’s Bible Class in the main auditorium to around 2,000 people.
What captivated me most was the sermon preached by Jerry Falwell, the church’s founder and pastor. His sermon was taken from Acts 5:28, “Behold, ye have filled Jerusalem with your doctrine.” Jerry explained every church should fill its “Jerusalem” where it is located.  Falwell explained Saturation Evangelism, “Using every available means, to reach every available person, at every available time.”  He wanted to preach to every person in America over television and his aim was to air the Old Time Gospel Hour in every major television market in America.  He also created a mailing campaign to get the gospel out to everyone.  I walked into the first auditorium to see four large computers, larger than a walk-in refrigerator.  The data for 100,000 mailing addresses were kept on those computers. Today, that amount of data can be stored in a smart phone.  Jerry Falwell was committed to raising the money, paying the price, sacrificing his time and effort to carry the gospel to the entire world. 
Out of Thomas Road Baptist Church has grown Liberty University, the largest Christian university in the world (and perhaps in history).  When I retired as dean of seminary and School of Religion there were over 113,000 students enrolled online and in the resident program.  There have been graduation class of approximately 20,000 people, with over 4,000 young people going into ministry.  Many report that there are more Liberty graduates from Liberty in fulltime ministry than any other Christian university and seminary in the world. 
That morning when I first visited the church, Dr. Falwell announced to the audience that I was preparing a book on the ministry of Thomas Road Baptist Church.  He said, “If you have been saved at this church, grab a visitor cards and write your testimony on the back of it, or use two or more cards. Put it in the offering plate and we will give it to Dr. Towns to help his research.”
Jerry handed me an old cigar box packed with over 100 testimonies of those who had been saved in the church.  I went back to Harvey’s Motel, sat on the floor with the concept of Saturation Evangelism in my mind.  I began placing different testimonies in piles with others who were saved using the same evangelistic method.  People were saved through the jail ministry, television ministry, radio ministry, Sunday school bus ministry, evangelistic crusades, telephone outreach, tract distribution, etc.  As I read the testimonies I wept.  God had touched my heart through what He had done in many lives, alcoholic, broken families, abandoned, etc.  In my opinion, Thomas Road Baptist Church was doing more to get the gospel to their entire “Jerusalem” than any other church I had experienced.  I prayed that night that I might have a part with this church, not knowing that one day I would be the Co-Founder with Jerry Falwell of Liberty University.


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Tuesday, May 8, 2018

Sexual License and Despair

The "Me Too " tag has unleashed a torrent of complaints from women accusing males of accosting them in ways large and small. Hardly a day passes that we do not read about some famous person who was previously lauded as being "Pro Woman/Pro Feminist" that has been outed as a sexual predator.

A recent article on the sexual revolution has a stinging assessment of the past and present damage done to America because of it.  Women, who were led blindly into the revolution expecting a wonder filled heaven of pleasure and freedom but have instead found the life of sexual license filled with predators and pain.

God always has the good or humans in mind when He tells us about the limits we need to set up on our behavior. God set limits of our sexual behavior and we have disagreed and we thought we knew best with tragic results just as God predicted when He said, "I have set before you death and life. Choose Life!"

The article lays out the tragic results of going astray for us as a nation and the citizens that must pay for the errors. As always, Christians who follow the ways of the Lord will pick up the pieces because we continue the works of The Great Physician.

I recently spoke with a man in his fifties that greeted the sexual revolution and volunteered to lead the charge in his region. He and his wife had been fighting for decades and he could not figure out why. I asked if they had had sex before marriage and he said, "Are you kidding? Everybody had sex back then. I do not know of a single man that did not."

I asked, "Have you asked your wife for forgiveness?"

He "Forgiveness? Why?"

Me, "Were you a confessing Christian?"
He "Yes".

Me "Was it wrong to do it?"

He "Well...Yes".

Me "Then go home and ask her forgiveness."

He "Well, I know a lot of guys that need to confess."

Me "So, now you can tell them how you did it."

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Thursday, May 3, 2018

Drugs, Suicide, and Mental Health

In the paper recently there have been several articles about the deaths of people from drugs and suicide. The death of one person from an accident or disease is terrible but when it occurs in the life of a seemingly healthy person it hits us doubly hard.

The survivors of deaths from drugs and suicide are especially hard hit. It leaves the family and friends asking themselves a lot of questions and pain because we wonder what we might have done wrong or left out that "caused" our loved ones to take such a drastic action.

Both suicide and drug abuse are hared to prevent. What signs of real depression or anger did I miss that I SHOULD have caught? Did they hint at their despair? Did some comment of mine cause them to lose hope? We just do not know, and that is an awful feeling.

In each situation we often read how happy or well adjusted the person was and how surprised we are a his or her decision. In some situations the person is in Therapy and the Therapist is as surprised as everyone else. So, intervening is difficult.

Some of the usual preventive factors are an active involvement in a faith group and a solid sense of self respect, not just self image.

Fellowship with good people and a faith in God are very good acts of prevention. Learn more on our web page.

Wednesday, May 2, 2018

Why So Much Despair?

The correlations between drugs, alcohol, smoking, pornography, and a despairing lifestyle is highly correlated with early childhood losses and trauma. As long as we as a nation have women having babies and rearing them without a man around to love, nurture, discipline, and support the child we will have increasing despair. 

The lack of agreement in our society that sex outside marriage is harmful has damaged the psyche of millions of people and brought about an anti-commitment attitude in millions of people. This has been exacerbated by the honoring and idolizing of people like Hugh Hefner and Larry Flint have led many people to fulfill their lusts with no consideration of the consequences in themselves, their partners and their offspring. 

Hefner ended up with leading beautiful triplets on a leash around his mansions like a slave owner proudly showing off his chattel. But, the truth was far different. Hefner was unable to have sex with any woman and spent his days watching gay porn in a bizarre display of failing to live anything but a nightmare. 

The more recent evil acts of Harvey Weinstein and others who acted out the violent fantasies they saw on pornographic videos. Several have asked, "Where were his parents?" but it is more likely that they knew nothing of his desperate search for sexual highs though brutality. 

Despair leads to acting out desperately in ways that bring death rather than life. God told His people that He had set before them "Death or Life and to choose life". Hefner knew his scripture but he rebelled against it and chose death rather than life.

Scoffers make fun of VP Pence for being a prude but he has chosen life not death. When I was a teenager I met the Lord in a dramatic manner. To the consternation of my drunken friends I stopped all the drinking and partying and they protested strongly. One great former friend even threatened to "Kick my _________" if I refused to drink with him. Why do  humans that chose  activities of despair demand that we join them? 

To abstain is to judge! People in despair know they are choosing deathly actions. When we show we can change it is convicting to them and they get angry. 

Jesus told us in Luke 10 to ignore Scoffers who point their bony fingers at us and accuse us of evil. My friend who promised to "Kick my ____" did not. I just smiled and said, "Would you also get mad at me if I did not want to eat green beans?" He laughed and let it go. 

But the evil haters want to attack us because of politics and religion so they will not stop. They are addicted to despair and cannot stand happy people. 

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Tuesday, May 1, 2018

Despair and Death

                                                            Disaster Awaits Me

Unless a person is under a rock, we all know that drugs, depression, and self harm are killing  many, many people. There is a recent article about it here. 

The article points out, as have others, that people are frustrated and lost the meaning of life. They are living in despair.

As a Christian, an educator, and a Counselor, I am convinced that it will take more places of Recovery but much more to make an impact on the problem of drugs and the problems behind the drugs. For example, the article mentions that many drug users have given up hope of getting a better job or getting out of the bad parts of town. These are issues of imagination and identity. For millennia people have had to scratch and labor to make it in life. Before the current era 90% of the US had to work in menial jobs. But they did it and most did not become addicts or depressed as a result.

I am not sure why but I wonder if it was because our expectations were low. Now, expectations are sky high ands when we do not all become famous, we may conclude we are failures. Dr. Martin Seligman studied distressed, depressed, and anxious people. He came to the conclusion that people in despair had a faulty or easily overcome Belief System.

Seligman said many depressed folks have an Explanatory Style of Pessimism that leads them to view Adversities in an especially devastating manner. Maybe you or someone you love has such a style of thinking.  Hang on and I will lay it out for you in my following posts.

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Sunday, April 22, 2018

Great Churches Jotabeche in Chile

Do you wonder what he most influential in church history in the past 100 years were, and 
what trends did they set and how they expressed their influence?  Can those past churches’ successes help us today?  

Read, The Ten Most Influential Churches in the Past Century, published by Destiny Image Publishers by Elmer Towns.  Order this book from

The Jotabeche Church (Pentecostal Holiness) Santiago, Chile

I first visited the Jotabeche Church in June 1982 with John Maxwell, leadership guru, and two other pastors.  We were touring great churches in South America, researching the topic, “The World’s Ten Largest Churches.”  I wanted to follow up my best seller book, The Ten Largest Sunday Schools in America.  In 1982, it had the largest sanctuary in the modern area, seating 19,000.  (John Maxwell left me talking to the pastor to count every pew to verify the number). 
At the time the Jotabeche Church was averaging over 92,000 in Sunday attendance, in a multisite strategy.  The main church downtown was called the Cathedral, approximately 13 churches surrounding the city are called Temples.  Out beyond the Temples were approximately 100 congregations simply known as churches.  And beyond the edge of the city were a multitude of mission Sunday schools, each would eventually become a church.
This was the church that introduced the Pentecostal phenomena of speaking in tongues to South America.  When Joseph Seymour lead the Azusa Street Mission in Los Angeles to speak in tongues in 1906, a letter describing the phenomena of tongues and the movement of the Holy Spirit was sent to a missionary in India. That missionary wrote to the people of a new Methodist church in Santiago, Chile, re-telling the phenomena, and a church was built on the power of the Holy Spirit.
Technically it was founded as a Methodist church in 1903, but when the gift of tongues began there was a break with the Methodist denomination.  The Jotabeche Church was founded in 1909.  The church is known for street preaching; its lay preachers proclaim the gospel on street corners throughout the city.  In 1982 I saw several street preachers addressing small crowds on street corners.  Then in 2014, I stood on the main street in downtown Santiago and saw a stylishly dressed young woman in her 30s reading the scriptures from her cell phone and preaching to business people as they were rushing off to work.  None stood around to hear her preach. 
The multisite pattern of evangelism has expanded beyond Santiago to other major cities throughout Chile.  Technically, the Jotabeche network has over 350,000 believers today.
I preached in a prayer meeting to a crowd of over 19,000.  However, right before the service began, everyone was chatting which raised the noise level throughout the auditorium.  Pastor Vasque approached the platform, threw both hands in the air and shouted at the top of his voice, “Glory to God” (in Spanish).  Immediately 19,000 people jumped to their feet shouting at the top of their voices the threefold “GLORY TO GOD.”   They shouted “Glory to the Father, glory to the Son, glory to the Holy Ghost.”  Every nerve in my body sprang to attention and I broke into uncontrollable tears . . . tears of worship . . . tears of praise. 


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Wednesday, April 4, 2018

Friday, March 30, 2018

Speaking the truth in love

Speaking the truth in love we are to grow up in every way into Him... Ephesians 4:15

Helping is not for the benefit of Teacher but for the Learner. Our goal is to help ourselves to pass life, health and peace to people we know. We, like Jesus, come to serve not be served. The cause of much conflict and difficulty among Christians lies here. We all want others to help us.

Scripture is clear about the need for balance between love and truth, rest and action, challenge and submission.  I read many criticisms of Christians and agree with most of them. I suggest that the primary problem with those who attack each other is not ideological but a lack of love. Without the fruit of the Holy Spirit even those who agree ideologically can get caught in a harmful conflict if we have no ability to "agree to disagree agree-ably."

It reminds me of an apocryphal story about a man was stranded on the proverbial deserted Pacific Island for many long years. Finally one day a boat came sailing into view, and the man frantically waves to draw the skipper's attention. The boat came near the island and the sailors came on the island to greet the stranded man.

After the tour the sailor asked the man,

"Why are there three huts you have here?"

"Well, that's my house."

"What's that next hut?" asks the sailor.

"I built that hut to be my church."

"What about the other hut?"

"Oh, that's where I used to go to church.

One of our favorite philosophers was Pogo, a cartoon possum of the Forties and Fifties. He was fond of saying,

We have me the enemy and he is us. The cause of warring and fighting is not far from us for it is within us.

What causes fights and quarrels among you? Do they not they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but do not get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. James 4:1-3

We all need a heartectomy from the sword of the Spirit, the word of God. The term used here is desires. According to the Greek-Hebrew Key Study Bible, epithumeo is a specific type of desire meaning, "A passionate demand arising from natural desires." The nature of our flesh is selfish, demanding and unyielding on theological as well as personal matters. As James says, we fight and quarrel because of our selfish demands. He goes on to say that even our prayers are not answered because we ask from wrong motives in order to serve our selfish desires.

Tuesday, March 27, 2018

Drugs and the Government

The President and top government officials are calling drugs a national crisis and want to DO something. This is an area very close to the heart of President Trump because his brother died from alcoholism, which is still a very dangerous drug. 

The challenge to reduce addiction and early death is very great. I have been working in Mental Health and Addiction for a long time and I certainly do not have THE ANSWER.
I do have some suggestions. 

1. One of the least expensive ways to reduce addiction is churches with Recovery Groups. The most successful programs in Russia  was Recovery for both Addicts and for Co-Dependent family members. Supporting family members is as important as helping addicts.
Addiction rates in Russia are ten times worse than ours but they have been very successful by helping families!

Drugs are only one part of the total Compulsive and Dependent behavior spectrum. People also get hooked on sex, pornography, the internet, food, anger, etc. 

Options for Us

A. Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous are the most prevalent. They also sponsor Al Anon for family members

B. Celebrate Recovery is a Christ centered program with many resources to get started.

C. Teaching people to pray is very helpful.

D. Trained Peer Helpers is important.

E. Train people that the scripture says, "There is no condemnation" for people that struggle. So, let us stop condemning addicts. 

In Cincinnati we can get help at:

City Gospel Mission

The Serenity Network has several options.

The Cincinnati Vineyard has groups for addicts plus they train Helpers.

Addictive Behavior = Compulsions + Dependency 

Compulsions arise to quell inner guilt and shame. If we add to the addict's guilt and shame
we can do damage. 

Dependency is  the result of a desire for happiness and joy. If that comes froms ex and 

drugs we need to offer better feelings of spiritual joy to replace
the momentary feelings from bad behavior. 

Prayer and meditation can raise good feelings and reduce the need to false highs. 

Never, ever, suggest that a person cannot change. 

Never be Pessimistic. Always promote Faith, Hope, and Love.

The best interventions is a combination of 
Inner healing prayers and Power Christian Thinking. Many sex addicts were brought to recovery with that combination plus worship at College Hill Church. 

Ministers: Do not preach against drugs, porn, sex, alcohol, etc. 
It can make the problem worse by increasing guilt and shame. Preach 
Healthy behavior and resting in Christ. Preach answers not failures
and problems. 

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Monday, March 26, 2018

Did Harvey Weinstein Commit Sins?

It seems pretty clear right now that Harvey Weinstein has committed a lot of bad acts in his adult life. Many of the things he was doing seem clearly illegal. They were certainly odious socially and contrary to the social consciousness of modern Americans. What in the world led Harvey and others to engage in such acts?

Mr. Weinstein was a free thinker when it came to meeting with and having sex with women who were not his wife. As a friend about the same age as Weinstein recently told me, "I do not know a single man that did not have multiple sex partners before marriage!" 

Since Hugh Hefner made Free Sex an acceptable mantra with "The Playboy Philosophy" sexual pleasures, hooking up, friends with benefits, and playing around have become regular occurrences in America. Pornography is touted as a great way for couples to better enjoy themselves and "50 Shades of Gray", a book on S&M is a best seller, read mostly by females! 

It even appears that the Me Too Movement is trying to take us back into a Victorian Age. Now some women are accusing men of sexual abuse because they hugged them too long or were bad sex partners. Other men are attacked because of sexual acts that happened 20 years ago when they were praised and celebrated as exciting. Is there no "Statute of Limitations" on consensual and even paid sexual relationships? 

Christians are torn by all these contradictory activities. We despise the "Playboy Philosophy" and yet we also believe in forgiveness, redemption, and mercy. How do we deal with such immorality? 

Selling Fire and Death Insurance

I was approached by Bob Coats, an insurance salesman a short time after I started as a new teacher when my salary was very low. Bob knew I needed a second job and offered to teach m how to sell insurance for him.  He explained there were some new life insurance plans coming out which were very creative. One of the most startling policies to me was called Ordinary Whole Life. It had a Savings Benefit as well as a Death Benefit.

I can clearly remember Bob sitting in an old stuffed chair in my parent's living room explaining how buying an Ordinary Whole Life policy would actually pay my money back at retirement. I was flabbergasted, and tempted to ask him to leave the house. I found his explanation almost totally unbelievable.

Everybody knew that life insurance was  to protect your heirs when your life was over. It did not pay for retirement or vacations or houses but it gave the family cash if I died! It was a Death Benefit not a Life Benefit. Let me relate another reason or two that I found the presentation was so unbelievable.

First, I was surrounded by people that never even mentioned retirement, let alone saving for retirement. People worked until they died. The average life span was not very long so we did not consider life after work. 

Second, our religion was all about preparing us for death. Very little was ever said about living and growing in following Jesus. Every sermon, Bible study, and play was devoted to preparing for DEATH!

Third, in America, we follow the practices of the early circuit riders. They came into town, preached to sinners about "Heaven to gain and hell to shun" baptized their new converts and rode off into the sunset. My church experience was similar. Sermons and teaching was all about being saved and staring a new life but almost nothing about life after the new birth.

Insurance promoted preparation only for dying and so did our church. And probably for good reasons. Life was hard and short but heaven promised abundance and joy. I wonder if it was our theology that pushed us more than a life itself. The early church had a vigorous emphasis on equipping and discipleship and their life span was very short.

Does your church have a vigorous emphasis on growth and healing or just of repentance from rebellion and getting saved? What is the theology that supports growth and healing after salvation? Without a theology of growth, healing, and living a new life church becomes little more than a birthing station.

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Saturday, March 24, 2018

What Privilges Should We Apologize for?

The obsessive overemphasis on Political Correctness promises to divide and destroy us as a nation if we are not careful. Recently Mark Galli, Editor of Christianity Today asked if it was wrong to rely on our privileges. He rightfully said privileges are a good thing. 

As a result I wrote him to say thanks. My note is found below.

Dear Mr. Galli:

Thanks for affirming privileges. As a kid I sang:
Count your blessings
Count them one by one
Count your blessings, and
See what God has done.

Those who have worked hard to bless our kids, churches, and the poor around us are now attacked as doing something wrong.

As a Family Therapist well acquainted with Cognitive Psychology, these attacks on privilege/blessings are falling into the current disaster of Pessimistic explanations for all adversities. As a Christian I teach and write how believers can Renew their minds Ro 12:2 and James 1 and see all trials as blessings.

We cannot allow pessimists and those who resent God’s blessings drag us down into pessimistic anxiety and depression from false guilt. Be happy!

What do you think?