Saturday, November 18, 2017

Making and Keeping my Money

While arguments in DC about taxes and spending keep us confused, there are many ways we can keep the money we make. Even if the GREED CATS in DC refuse to reduce our tax rates, we can do more with what we have. 

Richard Thaler just received the Nobel Prize in Economics by writing about money in very practical ways. Mainly by telling us how to KEEP the money we have by saving smarter. 

This link has some very interesting articles and book about making and saving that smart people are already practicing. I have done some of these things for years even though my income in ministry has been small in comparison with others. However, by smart investing, and saving a little at a time we are doing very well in retirement. 

I hope Christians will become wiser and better at both making and keeping and donating their resources to ministries that follow Jesus Christ. I have a personal as well as a charitable desire for this to happen. First, my Christian non-profit depends on donations small and large to survive. Most of them are small but some are quite large. We are thankful for both. 

Second, I read about billionaires with evil intentions donation to evil causes. We need Christians to support the many positive causes led by believers. I pray that God will raise up many rich, Christians so they can support great charities. 

See our link to pray for us. 

Friday, October 20, 2017

Disabled Children

Almost 10 years ago we were told we could receive a large grant from the Hatton Foundation to do research about the needs of children with a delay or disability.  We discussed this issue with the Hatton Foundation leaders and agreed to alter the focus of the grant. 

Why would we want to alter the focus of a grant to do research on children with a disability? Do we think these kids don't have great, unmet needs? 

No, absolutely not. 

We know the kids have deep and ongoing needs! So why not do in-depth research? Because numerous, brilliant, caring, insightful people are already doing such research. Consider for a moment the fantastic hospitals and research institutes in America and Europe that focus almost exclusively on discovering the causes and cures of sick children. 

Here in Cincinnati we have a huge, highly regarded Children's Hospital staffed by some of the most brilliant Physicians and Medical professionals in the world, and similar places can be found elsewhere. But there is at least one glaring and discouraging topic that desperately needs research. The needs and importance of Parents and Caregivers. 

So, we agreed with the Hatton Board to take a plunge into doing in-depth research on what Caregivers and Families want and need. In the next few weeks we will launch a powerful and practical new web presence designed to give those who love and care for these kids the insights, wisdom, and knowledge they need to reduce their stress and flourish personally and as a family. 


Marketing 101

The codfish lays a thousand eggs
The homely hen but one.
The codfish never cackles
To tell you when she’s done.
And so we scorn the codfish
While the humble hen we prize,
Which only goes to show you;

That it pays to advertise.

Kurlansky, M. “Cod: A biography of the fish that changed the world” p. 29

Thursday, October 12, 2017

Why is it Taking Me so Long to Get Better?

The Apostles and Prophets, Pastors, Evangelists, and Teachers that began the new churches after the resurrection of Jesus were just ordinary men and women with an extraordinary God!  They faced personal and interpersonal conflicts that came from and added to the anger and bitterness that dominated the ancient world. In my opinion, St. Paul the Apostle that was so wise and influential, had to deal with his own personal, anger and bitterness. 

In the history of Saul/Paul, we see he was a angry and bitter man. He suffered from a thorn in his flesh that I think was anger and bitterness. He writes in 2 CO 12:

And lest I should be exalted above measure by the abundance of revelations, a thorn was given me in the flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me, lest I be exalted above measure. I asked the Lord three times that this thing might depart from me. But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will boast in my weaknesses, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10 So I take pleasure in weaknesses, in reproaches, in hardships, in persecutions, and in distresses for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

In Galatians 5 Paul wrote that the Fruit of the flesh included, hatred, strife, jealousy, rage, dissensions, anger and murders. He knew what he was talking about because he was an angry, hateful, man who murdered people with whom he disagreed. 

Before Saul was converted, he was a bad dude. Now that he was reborn, was all his rage gone? It seems he still struggled with deep issues of his flesh. Like everyone I know and have ever known the Christian life is marked by what can only be called, a need for constant "Pilgrim's Progress". 

We need to assist each other in order to progress. I need you. Do you need me? Paul needed his friends. May God show us how to get better and better at "One Anothering". 

Sweeten Life is dedicated to supporting that task in many nations and we are seeing great progress. 

Tuesday, October 10, 2017

Why Do We Get So Upset?

The current polarization of people in the USA has me wondering why we so easily act as if we were facing WWIII. In fact, Senator Bob Corker said the President was on a track to take us into WWIII. That is what we in Counseling and Psychology call "Catastrophic Thinking and Feeling". 

There is no question that President Trump has been making fun of Senator Corker and refused to support him in a reelection battle, but that is hardly WWII, even if the Senator thinks leaving the Senate is a catastrophe. Every Bulletin on TV is announced as though it was going to snow, and THAT is a CRISIS!!!!

Every visit by a Russian to Washington, DC is expressed as a huge, unique crisis by breathless TV talking heads. Every Democrat that is challenged for reelection is offered in a TV BULLETIN! 

But, North Korea has been acting up since Truman. So, breathe deeply and stop screaming about it on Facebook. 

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A New Prayer for Sleeping

Do you have nightmares or bad dreams? Here is a prayer I wrote for parents to teach their children to pray each evening. It recognizes the presences of God with us all night long. Feel free to copy and print it out for your family. 

A New Prayer for Sleeping

Now I lay me down to sleep
I thank the Lord my soul will keep.

No fear of night, He will provide-
His angels near, my sleeping side.

At morning's dawn, I will awake,
To live again for Jesus' sake.

He gives me strength, the whole night rest,
Enough each day to give my best

Friday, October 6, 2017

Bitterness Kills

The polarization in America has gotten worse over the past few years. There are many theories but no proofs showing why, but I have an idea as a result of 40 years of counseling.

In a word: BITTERNESS, a desire for revenge and a refusal to forgive. It says, "I demand that ______ be punished."

 Hebrews 12: 14 Pursue peace with all people and the holiness without which no one will see the Lord

15 watching diligently so that no one falls short of the grace of God, lest any root of bitterness spring up to cause trouble, and many become defiled by it

Peace and harmony can arrive only as a result of grace. Grace is the opposite of revenge and justice. revenge and a lack of grace can focus on ourselves and others. It can be focused on individuals or groups. 

When focused inwardly it leads to depression and anxiety and even suicide. Rage and bitterness is very destructive to the carrier and those around them. 

When focused outward it can be directed at one person or at a group or leader. A political party, a President, a nation. In some cases a church or religion. Karl Marx was the son of a Jewish father that converted to Christianity for protection and business.  His resentment led him to despise all religions and even God which he severely punished. 

The people that explode and act out tend to be outwardly timid, passive, and weak.  They will often have powerful fantasy filled  lives who may play violent games or write violent stories, but act passively and mild mannered. 

It is the weak and timid that blow up and get revenge. It is rarely the strong, independent, hunters that go out with their buddies to sit in a duck blind or stalk a deer. the bearded men of Duck Dynasty are as safe as a nursery worker. Barney Fife was a danger to anyone that scared him. 

If you want to heal your inner hurts and bitterness, go to the Sweeten Life web store and download the PDF for Breaking Free.  

Tuesday, October 3, 2017

Anger and Polarization Reduction

I wrote a response today to a great joke posted by my friend Dennis Cole. It tells how a lowly private stopped a car driven by a private  that forgot the password. He was driving a general who also forgot the password. The General told the guard to let him through and the young man's response was a beautiful for us as Christians. He said, "General, I am new at this guarding thing. Who do I shoot, you or the driver?" 

The country is more openly divided now than any time I remember. This makes it easy to get suckered into taking one side or the others of the pole. Everybody asks us, "Who do you think is right, Trump or Hillary"? 

To make things worse, even playing sports is polarized.  "Hey Gary, do you support the right on football players to stand, kneel, sing, sit, etc or do you support the flag, America, and apple pie?"
In other words, whom do I shoot? 

Whomever I shoot, it will have a mob effect. A mob will be on my case, people will unfriend me and my fellow Christians will wonder if I have fallen from grace. (Except my Baptist relatives.)

Polarizing leads to destruction and makes peace almost impossible. Some of us remember the fantastic book and film, Peace Child. The author, Don Richardson, told how he and his family moved to share the gospel with some unreached people. When he was finally able to speak their language, he had to learn to also speak to their culture because when the people heard the story of Jesus they thought Judas was the hero. 

Revenge was their greatest virtue meaning that wars could never cease because every tribal conflict had casualties that must be avenged. Until a way to reconcile the poles is found, the conflicts between identity groups will not cease and Postmodern ideals demand we place everyone into separate Identity Groups that can never be reconciled because it would mean the end of a group 

Can we discover a way to reconcile the Postmodern situation? I think so. 

Russia Bought the Attack Ads on Facebook

Some accounts that Facebook Inc. has said appear to be tied to Russian entities and bought ads around the U.S. election continued to post divisive messages as recently as this past August, according to saved versions of the now-deleted pages.
“Secured Borders,” a Facebook page that the social-media giant told congressional investigators bought ads during the presidential campaign last year, posted messages after the election that called for killing Muslims and that labeled illegal immigrants as “rapists, murderers, child molesters,” according to cached versions of the page. A person with knowledge of the Facebook page confirmed its authenticity as well as that of three others.
The pages expressed extreme views on both sides of the U.S. political and social spectrum, espousing radical ideas that demonized opposing viewpoints. “Blacktivist,” another Facebook page that bought ads during the campaign, posted videos that allegedly showed police violence toward blacks. “We could see that police are totally out of its mind and its actions are no longer correlate with common sense [sic],” said one post from August.
That same month, during the white-supremacist rally in Charlottesville, Va., Secured Borders posted an article from a separate site called The Blacksphere titled “Democrats ARE White Nationalists in Charlottesville.” The article from Blacksphere, a site by conservative black commentator Kevin Jackson, included a photo showing civil-rights leader John Lewis, a representative from Georgia, in a defiant stance. Secured Borders added its own comment: “Charlottesville is a real mess. We’re on the brink of another civil war.”
Four of the accounts that remained active at least until late August—“Secured Borders,” “Blacktivist,” “Heart of Texas” and “Being Patriotic”—collectively had nearly a million followers before Facebook removed the accounts for violating its policies by misrepresenting their identities.

Saturday, September 30, 2017

Memorial Services and Good Memories

One time I attended a memorial service so inspirational that a friends said, "It almost makes me wish I had been in the casket!"
The memorial service for Bob Wade, Ph. D, at College Hill Presbyterian Church, was at that level of inspiration. Bob was a brilliant scientist, leader at P&G, and a servant leader at CHPC. 

Bob leaves his wife Sue, one of God's most loving, and joyful lay leaders at the church. They have two children and several grandchildren filled with the memories of his love.  

Bob and Sue were key people in equipping emphasis at CHPC with national and international impact. The legacy of Bob will linger long in hundreds of hearts and thousands of  people around the world. Bob was a quiet and dedicated Christian that let his walk do most of the talk.

His life exemplifies why equipping and unleashing all of God's people is biblical.   

Our ministry has benefitted from the gifts and care of Bob and Sue for many years and saw up close their genuine love for God.

Monday, September 11, 2017

Ground Zero

Four of us from Life Way Counseling Centers spent a few days at Ground Zero. It was just two weeks after the shameful attack on civilians by pagan cowards.  Two of us had the shift from 1:00 AM until 1:00 PM, usually described as the "Graveyard Shift" and it was anything but a quiet and docile time. 

The three tents were placed just a couple of blocks from the downed towers and the air was filled with tiny bits of their remains. One night I sat next to the morgue tent that sat empty but expectant of being filled with the bodies of men and women brought out of the carnage. But none came because everything had been atomized when a hundred weighty floors fell. 

While there I, as a Chaplain/Counselor, was able to listen to the long, painful stories of police and firemen who worked day and night to recover their family members, colleagues, and friends. 

We were all sad to look ahead and see the reality of wars to come to eliminate the evil men that planned such a horrible event. Here we are today mourning the fact that more good men and women have lost their lives and homes as the result of bitterness and hate unleashed on our nation. 

One of the jobs of a Christian like me is to lead people that have suffered to leave their bitterness behind by following the teachings of Jesus to forgive. Ground Zero is an example of what happens when people have no faith leaders that teach redemption and starting over. 

Our Father who art in heaven 
Hallowed be thy name
Thy kingdom come,
Thy will be done,
On earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
And forgive us our trespasses 
As we forgive those who have trespassed against us. 
And lead us not into temptation
But deliver us from the evil one.
For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory forever. 

Let us pray this often; even daily.

Gary Sweeten

Thursday, September 7, 2017

Serenity Prayers for the Myers-Briggs Types

Those who know the Myers Briggs will enjoy this.
  • ISTJ - God, help me to begin relaxing about little details tomorrow at 11:41:32 am
  • ISFJ - Lord, help me to be more laid back, and help me to do it exactly right
  • INFJ - Lord, help me not be a perfectionist (Did I spell that right?)
  • INTJ - Lord, keep me open to others' ideas, wrong though they may be
  • ISTP - God, help me to consider people's feelings, even if most of them are hypersensitive
  • ISFP - Lord, help me to stand up for my rights (if You don't mind my asking)
  • INFP - Lord, help me to finish everything I sta
  • INTP - Lord, help me be less independent, but let me do it my way.
  • ESTP - God, help me to take responsibility for my own actions, even though they're usually not my fault
  • ESFP - God, help me to take things more seriously especially parties and dancing
  • ENFP - God, help me keep my mind on one thing - Look, a bird - at a time.
  • ENTP - God, help me follow established procedures today. On second thought, I'll settle for a few minutes
  • ESTJ - God, help me to try not to run everything, but if You need some help, just ask.
  • ESFJ - Lord, give me patience and I mean right now
  • ENFJ - God, help me to do only what I can and trust You for the rest. Do You mind putting that in writing?
  • ENTJ - God, help me to slow downandnotrushthroughwhatId

Tuesday, August 29, 2017

Confusion about Leadership

Bob Robinson is a Great Servant Business Leader

The number of articles, books, and conferences with "Leadership" in the title indicates several thing to me. 1. The need for leaders is great. 2. Need for people already in positions of "leadership" are not very effective and want to learn how to improve. 3. A lot of people think they know something about leading and are eager to lecture the rest of us. 4. Nobody knows what leadership is and everybody is scrambling to find out. 5. ___________________ Fill in the blank.

I have a "pet peeve" on the topic. I think there is great confusion about leadership and many times people are stuck in positions where leadership is needed and required but they are over their heads. Leading, to me, indicates a gift of facilitating a movement of people and ministry toward a mission, a vision, and a goal.

That can be a big problem in churches if the designated leader, the Minister/Preacher is a gifted talker but lousy at leading. Steve Griebling and I were consulting with a church of about 1200 people several years ago. The Preacher was chosen because he was a terrific speaker that drew Christians to hear him by droves. However, he had no ability to lead the organization. He preached at every board meeting, staff meeting, and committee meeting. In a congregation of over 1,000 people he had never even led a committee planning meeting successfully.

Yet, he faithfully attended high power leadership training conferences at the suggestion of his Elders who desperately wanted him to improve his leadership skills. Every conference was filled with great speakers that gave him five to ten points of leading. They did not know how t lead either, but they knew how to preach.

We learn how to lead big organizations by trying our skills out at home and in small groups. 

I. Timothy 1-7 If anyone wants to provide leadership in the church, good! But there are preconditions: A leader must be well-thought-of, committed to his wife, cool and collected, accessible, and hospitable. He must know what he’s talking about, not be overfond of wine, not pushy but gentle, not thin-skinned, not money-hungry. 

He must handle his own affairs well, attentive to his own children and having their respect. For if someone is unable to handle his own affairs, how can he take care of God’s church? 

He must not be a new believer, lest the position go to his head and the Devil trip him up. Outsiders must think well of him, or else the Devil will figure out a way to lure him into his trap.

In fact, I think that few persons gifted in Preaching are also gifted in leading.  Find people gifted, talented, educated, and experienced in LEADING in home, house church, committee, staff, and Elder meetings and place them as the daily leader. 

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Selective Outrage at Evil?

A Wall Street Journal article said: "For the record, of the 20th century’s malign ideologies, Nazi ideas of who should be murdered and why strike me as slightly more odious and frightful than Maoist or Stalinist ideas of who should be murdered and why. The applicability to current U.S. events is slender, though."
This confuses me. Why is mass murder because of race ethnicity/ religion worse than mass murder because of class/ economics? 
Today's mass murder of people with a disability, being unwanted, or being an inconvenience seems just as evil to me. 
Is there a difference in the morality of Leftist Nazis and Leftists Communists? 
Both violate the Commandment, "Thou shalt not murder". 
Both hate their neighbors.

Neither honors their fathers and mothers.

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Monday, August 28, 2017

Can't Forgive?

Those that are engaged in Past Pain will be stuck in the present and unable to think about the future.

Come to Be Trained as a Mentor

We get to do it again! For the third year we will train adults to Befriend high school kids. The goal is to be a caring, supportive adult to a young person. That alone can encourage them to take positive steps toward achieving more in life.

If you have some warm friendship to plant as a positive seed in a kid's life, try it.  98% of the Mentors we trained last time said they loved the training and the practice of helping the young men and women. It helped them personally and in their volunteer work other places. 

And, it will last forever! 

Come and join in the fun and challenge of helping a young man or woman make it in life. 

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Friday, August 25, 2017

Gifts, Talents, and Personalities on a Team

We had terrific people on our staff at College Hill Presbyterian. The gifts, talents, interests, and temperaments were varied and we worked hard to communicate. It is not easy for each and every member to be included and needed. All of us took the MBTI and discussed it in many staff meetings. We had a lot of fun and it helped us reduce irrational conflicts. 

Conflicts and anger are inevitable, but bitterness is optional. Jerry was a great communicator and we enjoyed each other despite some big differences in type. 

We also wanted our sermons, teachings, and writings to take the Personality Preferences of our audience into account. We tended to add time for silence and some quiet music for Introverts in services but that often resulted in the High Extroverts being fidgety. 

Since over 85%of Ministers nationally are Extroverted iNtuitive Feelers, a staff must work hard on communication when others are wildly different. Thankfully, not everyone was an N or F. As a result, we had a good balance. 

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Wednesday, August 23, 2017

The Personality Preference at Work and Church

During my years at College Hill Church, several thousand people took the MBTI as well as the Spiritual Gifts Check List. We asked 
all new members, small groups, ministry teams, Deacons, Elders, and staff to take each one and discuss how they thought it helped them find a place  to fit into a church ministry. 

We also taught about how these self assessments could help them at home, at work, and life. I still get notes and comments about how much the teachings helped them in family life. Since some were quiet Introverts, we developed group processes to help the quiet ones to speak when they want! 

We asked the strong Extroverts to make sure they pause and encourage the Introverts time to get a word into the conversation. Extroverts can certainly dominate any discussion unless we intentionally open the door for a quiet I!

If you are not using some check-list like the MBTI, Strength Finders, or the Enneagram I suggest you start. It can be liberating and a lot of fun, especially when everyone takes part. Add the Spiritual Gifts Check List and discuss how they fit together.

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Monday, August 21, 2017

Cross Cultural Communications at Home

Humans are diamonds created in the image of God with many facets and places we can interact with love or clash over differences. Let the Light of God shine through every facet!

When Dr. Winter taught us about the various Levels of Cross Cultural Communication I was struck by how hard it is to communicate accurately and positively in my own family. I did not need to fly across salt water to discover the challenges of miscommunication. I had seen it with my parents, brothers, wife, and children. It is the cause of most angry conflicts and divorces in marriages as well as the cause as most church splits.

Karen and I attended a conference back in 1974 that introduced us to the Myers-Briggs Personality Preference Self-Assessment. (As a Therapist I cannot call it a Test.) The MBTI allows people to check preferences for things like Extroversion or Introversion, Structured or Spontaneous, etc. As a result we came back to CHPC and started asking friends to use the preference check list so we could discuss our similarities and differences. It was a blast!

When we developed the Teleios Wholeness Center at CHPC we used the MBTI to foster better interpersonal communication  between and among our Lay Helpers and the people that came to Teleios for prayer. We discovered that knowing people had different Temperaments made communication easier and understanding faster.
Julie: INFJ

As I aged I was able to develop a stronger J Structure because being  High P Spontaneous does not help me get things done fast. 

Knowing these tendencies helped us communicate better but not perfectly. Knowing that Introverts can be drained when with people and Extroverts can get energized by others, helped us understand and reduce miscommunication and blaming.  

Harmony at home and church will pay off big time in outreach, evangelism, church growth, and reducing anger and judgmentalism. Get our equipping materials to help you grow. 

Saturday, August 19, 2017

Cross Cultural Communication and Influence

Several years ago, Dr. Ralph Winter, founder of the US Center for World Mission, came to our church for a weekend missions conference. He and his family had been missionaries for years and discovered that he had needed more and better training to communicate with positive influence in a different culture.

As a Counselor that insight made a lot of sense to me because our training had said the same thing about the importance of understanding people that are different from us so we could better help them grow and heal.

Dr. Winter also gave us a way to think about reaching out beyond ourselves to others. He laid out four different levels of cross cultural communication.

Missions Level I:
Communicating to the people in our own church and culture. Since this certainly includes different age groups and different sexes, accurate, appropriate, and influential communication also requires understanding even at this level.
Men and Women are different
Singles and marrieds are different
Parents and non-parents are different
Generations are different
Family backgrounds are different
Human experiences are different
Race and ethnicity are different
Socioeconomic experiences are different
Educational experiences are different
Theological convictions are different
Other differences?

So, accurate, appropriate, communication that is positively influential demands sensitivity even in a church congregation. The key to great communication is an ability to relate with the Fruit of the Holy Spirit. Love, Joy, Gentleness, Kindness, Patience, etc.

The most important thing leaders can do to foster shalom in a congregation is to teach the skills of peaceful relationships at home, work, church, and community. Listen, for Heaven's Sake!

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Thursday, August 17, 2017

Our Love Can Heal People that Dislike Us

The late Dr. David McClelland of Harvard University was an expert on inner motivation and healing. He researched the impact of Mother Teresa on a group of students. He set it up so they watched a film about her to see its impact. He wanted to discover whether she influenced people in a positive manner. 
Before the film, Dr. McClelland wanted to find out how the students felt about her as a Nun doing good deeds. He discovered that some of the students appreciated and affirmed her ministry. Other students were "turned off by her religiosity." This gave him a base line to test them afterward to see I their beliefs going in made a difference.   

The way Dr. McClelland judged Mother Teresa’s impact was very interesting. He did a pre- and post-test analysis of the immunoglobin A secreted in each student's saliva.  

He said; “We decided to work with movies of healers, to see if a film could transmit the feeling of caring and loving and then see if that had positive effects on the immune system and it did." The following dialogue between the interviewer and Dr. McClelland is fascinating.

Dr. McClelland:  If you watch this documentary on Mother Teresa you see that in addition to performing an incredible service, she is also a wonderful person.
Interviewer:  It really comes through, this love and caring that she has.  I'm tempted to call it divine love and caring.

Dr McClelland:  Exactly.  Not everyone reacts to it consciously as you and I do, but the interesting thing is that their bodies react anyway.  The curious thing is that their opinions of the movie in no way related to whether their immune functions improved.  

Immunoglobulin A (IgA) is the body's first defense against cold viruses.  We found that salivary IgA increased even in people who disliked Mother Teresa...[S]he was contacting these consciously disapproving people in a part of their brains that they were unaware of and that was still responding to the strength of her tender loving care...[B]elief in the healer is [not] necessary to get healed.  At the conscious level a person may not believe at all, but at the unconscious level, something in the person may still respond to the healer.

Interviewer:  What was it that correlates to the release of IgA?

Dr. McClelland:  The students who responded to Mother Teresa by releasing IgA in their saliva have motives of "doing something positive to help someone, or to establish a love relationship.” But the curious part of it is that the person is not invested in the outcome of the thing.  There are no statements about anxiety of tension if it fails. (People of Peace.)

Interviewer:  The unconditional love?
Dr. McClelland:  That's right, unconditional is exactly the same sense as Mother Teresa's activity is unconditional.  She's asked in the film "How can you expend all this energy on these dying babies when you know that they are going to die anyway?"  

And she says that it is irrelevant, that whether they live or die isn't important to the act of love.  It's a variation on the old instrumental argument if you are in love with somebody because of what it gets you somehow it isn't love. Traditional healing and religion [always] stress non-involved striving.  I mean, striving without being concerned about the outcome.  

We have a computer label. We call it ‘div luv’ for divine love, but obviously we can't use that terminology for science.  I wish that somebody would give me a nice name for it.

This report gives us a real insight into the power of love. Loving behavior can bring positive changes even to observer. Mother Teresa was able to touch people deeply even through a film.  

Her love and grace caused a positive physiological response even in people who consciously disliked her.  This is a stunningly profound way to show that God's love impacts non-believers. Of course, we are not at the level of Mother Teresa but with God’s grace, truth, and love flowing through us, the impact can be wonderful. This must be at least part of what the Scripture means when it says “Jesus went about doing good."

Dr. McClelland found that love in both the seeker and the caregiver was important. This is not to say that God cannot use His supernatural power to heal someone's broken body or emotion despite their lack of love. It is obvious that God can heal anyone at any time. However, motivation is important in both people.   

It helps me better understand people who relapse from illnesses, addictions, and spiritual growth. Could it be that they did not appropriate God’s healing because of their own a lack of love? Jesus said in the Model Prayer that to be forgiven we must also forgive those who have wronged us.

Is this research pointing to the reasons why Jesus taught forgiveness?
Does this have an implication for a new definition of faith?
Does blessing people with peace bring healing?
How do we help people develop more peace and love?
If we love and serve others unselfishly will our health improve? 

As Jesus said in Luke 10. “Go meet people and bless them with peace”. That alone will bring healing to a fallen world. We need to learn to love and you learn to heal and develop places where there is no condemnation or rejection. Places of peace and serenity. Places where people are like Jesus and “Do good things as we go about the places we live and work. So, when people come in contact with us they will feel better and their bodies will react positively even if they disagree with us.

This report is a summary of the full article found in “The effect of motivational arousal through films on salivary immunoglobulin A by David C. McClelland and Carol Kirshnit” Psychology & Health Vol. 2. Issue 1, 1988

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Wednesday, August 16, 2017

What it Takes to Bring Peace to People

                                                                    Facebook Bombs!

I have been examining my Facebook posts and comments to see if I have been following the scripture passages below.  For the most part I have been OK, but not always. I am posting it for myself and anyone else that wants to be a peacemaker not a troublemaker.  Many of the posts are fostering anger and division, I fear. 

The single greatest reason folks divorce in America is an inability to resolve differences large and small.  Differences can be resolved when we have the fruit of the Holy Spirit. Contentment: At peace with myself, the world and God. Complaints mean we are unhappy and want something in life to change.  The only way to bring positive changes is to complain so complaints are good.

Being out of step with my spouse, however, brings distress that causes us to lose our contentment. There are two ways to handle a Complaint. Handling them with love builds trust and a deep relationship, but that is difficult. It is tempting to attempt to be right and prove the other person wrong.
Ephesians 414Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of men in their deceitful scheming. 15Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ. 16From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.
    17So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking. 18They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts. 19Having lost all sensitivity they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, with a continual lust for more.

22You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; 23to be made new in the attitude of your minds; 24and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. 25Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor. 26"In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27and do not give the devil a foothold.

29Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. 30And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 32Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

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