I often tell Pastors who are facing members of their churches who are resistent to change, "these folks want change as much as you. However, you are trying to change them and they are trying to change you! How do we as people influence others? How does a church influence the people around them?
According to Dr. Martin Seligman in his web Authentic Happiness and book Flourish, we can influence our neighbors and friends and people around us by the way we live. It is hard to believe but the data from a long term study about health showed how a person and family that lived with joy and happiness will influence their neighbors to be more joyful and happy. WOW!
Go to our Vimeo Page and watch the video Buidling Each Other Up by Charlie McMahan and me as we discuss this. You can also study more about this kind of influence by reading Hope and Change for Humpty Dumpty.