It appears that marriage is being crushed by a combination of cultural change, rising expectations, sexual promiscuity and poor life skills. After the two decisions by the Supreme Court some will say that gay rights are a big threat to marriage. I disagree. Although the cultural tsunami is bring great changes in sexual practices, in my view that is not the greatest challenge to traditional male-female marriage.
The biggest challenge is coming from heterosexuals who do not know how to manage themselves and a complex family life. According to Dr. John Gottmann the greatest threat to a couple's long term survival is an inability to deal with differences.
My wife and I were discussing why we have a great marriage after almost 52 years.
1. We come from the same culture. Rural southern Illinois.
2. We were both reared as Christians
3. We were both Baptists
4. We were then and are still Christians
5. We have a lot of fun
6. We are romantically attracted to each other
7. We flee immorality
8. We have intentionally attended classes, conferences and seminars on interpersonal skills for problem solving, conflict management, communication, etc
9. We each received a lot of inner healing
10. We know about personality differences and giftedness so we affirm differences
11. We are committed to work issues through
Why have you all stayed together or split apart?
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