My friend Phil Heimlich's Hard Truths Debuts on Cincinnati's 55KRC

                                     Phil will light a fire under passive people!

You know him as an attorney and a former politician. Now, Phil Heimlich is the host of a new radio feature called Hard Truths, which will be heard on 55KRC (550AM) in Cincinnati each morning and afternoon. 

Spending over a year in development, Hard Truths was conceived to address today's top social issues without being tied to the standard notions of liberalism verses conservatism. Hard Truths will uniquely focus on today's most meaningful issues, issues that have a direct impact on you, your family, your job, your safety and your life.

Listen for Phil Heimlich's Hard Truths each weekday morning between 6am-8am and again each weekday afternoon between 4pm-6pm on 55KRC (550AM) in Cincinnati and on the iHeart Radio App. You can also listen to Hard Truths on demand each day and get Phil's daily commentaries at philheimlich.com.

Phil Heimlich's Hard Truths bringing passion, common-sense and thought provoking opinion to today's most confusing issues. Hard Truths debuts on April 6th.

How the Bible says to Motivate

Start Slowly!

19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” Matthew 28:19-20.(NIV)

Bob taught me with the five aspects of discipleship. DREAMS

Didactic: Content taught by books, lectures, sermons, etc.

Reflection: Thinking about, discussing, journaling

Experience: Trying it myself by praying for people, speaking, leading a Bible study, etc.

Accountability: Feedback on how I was doing.

Modeling: Watching Bob and others do the stuff then discuss it

Supernatural: Prayer, worship and mem orizing the Bible

Discipleship by a learned, wise person and a close, caring, ongoing relationship. See my books on how. Healing Souls Touching Heart is a great start. 

How do we motivate people to change?

We care!

They share!

We insist and they resist!

For years I have studied how to  inspire people to change. There are many models being used but not all of them work to get people moving in a preferred direction. In fact, some attempts actually cause people to go the opposite direction.

For example, the anti-drug program DARE is a real failure. After a visit to a school by the DARE team research shows that the kids are LESS LIKELY than before to follow the DARE model.  
Most Suicide Prevention Programs have also had poor results. Kids are LESS LIKELY to speak up or try to prevent a friend from self harm.

Other programs and leaders have positive outcomes. Why? What is the difference?

Do you know why training and programs have success? Because we look for positive outcomes and ask the Clients what outcomes they want to work on? After they tell us we assist them in accomplishing the positive changes.

Most every traditional governmental, medical and religious group refuses to ask clients what they want. the attitude seems to be:

"We know what you SHOULD want and we insist that you want it as well." That spells FAILURE after FAILURE!

See Hope and Change for Humpty Dumpty for a strategy that fosters positive outcomes. 

What Leadership Approach Tends to Backfire?

We talk? They balk.(R)

We squawk?  They walk.

We care? They share.

We insist? They resist.

The old model: great diagnosis, correct prescription, give to the patient. One must be an expert in diagnosis and interventions. The patient needs to be passive.

The new model: great diagnosis, correct prescriptions, great assessment of motivation by patient and her support system. The expert must know how to facilitate problem solving with the patient and her support system. The key us an active patient.

Learn to Listen!

Should we Help the Poor?

I find it very difficult to challenge the current ways of helping poor people. Perhaps because of my own path toward freedom from poverty.

Or, maybe it is because of my training as an Educator I dislike doing too much for poor people. I saw what happened when parents did their kids homework, chores and house work.

Or, maybe it is because I have been  Counselor for a long time that I do not like the emphasis on current ideas about compassion, love and caring.

You see, I do not think it really helps poor people to do too much for them.

How do we decide when to give and when to withhold? Is there scripture that can guide us?

See Hope and Change for Humpty Dumpty for my take.

Who Can Help Single, White Mothers?

To whom do people go when they are stressed and need support? Whom can really assist a Single, White Mother? Can all go to a Psychologist or Psychiatrist? No, because there are few of these people and it costs money.

Here are the latest statistics  of who people share with when stressed and ready to collapse. 

Non Professional Help?

–      Family and Friends are consulted 200% to 500% of the time!

–      Stressed out women make Multiple Attempts

–      How many seek assistance form Professionals?

–      42% see a Clergy

–      18% see a Physician

–      8% see a Mental Health Counselor

Conclusion??????

Stress and Nervous Breakdowns

Indiana University researchers, found in 1996, more than 26% of adults said they had felt an impending nervous breakdown.

It is Up from 19% in 1957

•       Another 7% had experienced a mental health problem, a question not asked in the 1957 survey.

•       Both (26 + 7) = 33%

The people with the greatest RISK factors were: 

Single, white, mothers with no education and no religious involvement.

Look at this demographic. What are their needs? 

–      Single Mothers need?

–      White Women need?

–      Mothers need?

–      No faith community need?

Now look at the recommendations from the Professors who did the research. 

–      More money for crisis counseling agencies

–      Nothing about marriage

–      Nothing about religion.

–      Is this Malpractice?

–      Is it anti faith bias!

–      Ralph Swindle, Jr., Kenneth Heller, Bernice Pescosolido, and Saeko Kikuzawa The American Psychologist, Volume 55, Number 7, July 2000

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